Holding it together in isolation



Anyone who is estranged from family or is without a partner may be feeling the impact of isolation more strongly than most.

Physical isolation is challenging enough. When accompanied by emotional isolation it can become unbearable.


Taking the edge off

It can be tempting to take the edge off by drinking, smoking or other forms of self-medicating. Within safe limits this is not necessarily a problem, but if you can’t do without or your amounts are increasing then it may be a slippery slope.

From a healing perspective, these issues are located within the Sacral Chakra. This is the area of emotional security. When nurturing and support are lacking, it drives unhealthy compulsions and addictions. If there is a gap where love should be, we usually find another way to fill it.

We all need a way to feed our soul. The good news is there are ways to do this which won’t get you into trouble.

The Sacral Chakra also governs creativity, desire and passion. This exists on many levels – from relationships and creating life to simple pleasures such as a love of sport, cooking, films, fashion, music ….. anything that fires you up or calms you down. It doesn’t matter whether you acitvely take part or sit back and admire the skill of others. Either way, it’s good to get more of the things that give you happiness and strength.

Even better, connect with people who enjoy the same things. For instance, Meetup.com has groups for all interests, and you can connect with people anywhere in the world  https://www.meetup.com/blog/how-to-host-an-online-event-on-meetup/


Physical grounding

Under stress, the adrenaline starts to flow and it is a problem when you can’t get the space to work it out of your system.

If you feel physical tension rising in your body, here are some ways to get the unwanted energy out of your system:

  • Try to get some movement into your day. It will help to balance your energy levels, hormone levels, help you sleep, reduce anxiety and keep you grounded.
  • Physical tasks like cleaning or DIY can help, as a way to let off steam and get something constructive out of a frustrating situation.
  • If you have limited mobility or are not into breaking a sweat, a few stretches will Again, guided videos and groups can be found online.
  • For those who are energetic and find the four walls constraining, there are many home workouts available on YouTube, whether you’re into weights, yoga, running or other activities. You might find some new methods that actually enhance your usual training regime.
  • Better still, you can buddy up with someone else to keep you motivated and connected https://www.womenshealthmag.com/fitness/a18094761/long-distance-workout-buddies/     https://workoutbuddies.com/


What about connections to people you’ve lost touch with?

Be selective.

When you are alone with time on your hands it is a great opportunity to reconnect to long lost family and friends who you have had good times with in the past.

Or after a falling-out with someone, it could be an opportunity to make peace.

But choose wisely.

If you have separated from someone because they mistreated you, do not let loneliness push you back into a harmful situation.

If you’re not sure whether a certain relationship is good or bad for you, this checklist might help you work it out  https://coda.org/meeting-materials/patterns-and-characteristics-2011/


But what if you are still overwhelmed by unwanted thoughts or feelings and find yourself turning to unhealthy options in order to cope?

Many groups that provide support are now meeting online. You can get help to manage your thoughts and habits, and also connect to strong communities.

Sometimes it helps to link to somebody who is going through the same type of thing as you. This project is for teens and adults   http://www.buddy-project.org/about

If talking things through one to one is more your thing, there are counsellors online to assist you. Here are some resources:


For Young people




For Adults










For your unhealthy habits

Even if you don’t consider yourself to have an addiction, if you feel that something is starting to get out of hand you can benefit from attending meetings




If things get desperate

If all else fails and you may be in danger of harming yourself, please call the Samaritans  https://www.samaritans.org/   or  contact NHS mental health services for urgent support https://www.nhs.uk/oneyou/every-mind-matters/urgent-support/


There is no shame in asking for help. In fact this is a brave thing to do.




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Missing the bus – synchronicity and love

Hearts, sky, shattered, broken

By the time I came out of my meeting this evening, it was cold and dark outside. I couldn’t see any buses approaching so I decided to walk briskly to the next bus stop to warm myself up. Just before I reached the next stop, the bus went past, and I was annoyed with myself. I was now going to have to wait longer and get even colder.

A friend of mine describes delays as recalibration. Everything happens in a slightly different order from that point onwards. When things don’t go to plan, there is sometimes a better plan that you know nothing about. The catch is, it requires patience and awareness in order to notice the advantage or gift in an otherwise annoying situation.

Waiting at the bus stop you have three main choices: stare at the place the bus is approaching from and wish it would hurry up, stare at your phone, or take in your surroundings. This evening, I decided to distract myself from the cold and dark by watching what was going on in the street. It was interesting to see people passing by, what they were driving, what they were listening to, what they were carrying, what they were wearing.

A young man walked past the bus stop wearing a black hoody. It was printed with big rainbow-coloured letters on the front which said: BE THE LOVE YOU NEVER RECEIVED.

By now most of us have read the Gandhi quote, “Be the change you wish to see”. This was a new twist on that message and it struck me with some force. To be the change you have to be the love. Love is the motivation for the change you wish to see.

I wondered what this person had experienced to make him wear this hoodie, and I thought it was a brave move to wear such a thing in the street (as a young man of colour in a rough part of East London).

For anyone who has been denied love by anyone (and that would be most of us at some point in our lives) there’s a common experience that it’s easy to shrink, blame, build emotional walls and end up denying love to ourselves and others. It takes courage to be open, have faith, allow imperfection and to trust in our own ability to survive the unpredictability of human relationships.

Love is not a finite resource. You can generate it in unlimited amounts. However, psychology shows that people who have been denied love from an early age often struggle to establish lasting healthy relationships in adulthood. It’s difficult to give what you’ve never received. But the past is not a life sentence. Change is possible, if not alone then with some intervention. In this case the place to start is having enough self-love to ask for help, to give yourself the love you never received.

The only way to repair relationships or build new ones is by giving love in the first place, even if it’s not immediately reciprocated. This includes our relationship with our wounded self. It may be towards people who love us but are inhibited or afraid to show it. It also includes the responsibility to do better for the next generation than the previous one was able to do for us.

As the young man went past the bus stop I pondered on the gift of having missed the bus and gained his thought-provoking message. I wondered how best to apply that message in my own life.

My first answer is to provide support, personally and professionally, in ways that were not available to me when I was in a tough phase of my life. Being abandoned in a time of need tends to multiply the pain. I became determined to spare others that experience.

Secondly, I intend to take another look at the people who apparently let me down. Is there a chain of neglect? If they were not appropriately cared for perhaps they did not know how to respond to another person’s needs. Or perhaps they did not feel adequately equipped to deal with the situation. In this case I can supply the love that I did not receive and find a way to forgive them. It doesn’t change what happens back then, but it changes how we move on from here. My old pain is let go and there is an opportunity to relate differently now that I see their side. I can let them be flawed and allow them to love me back in their own imperfect way.

How glad I am that I missed the bus and noticed that passer-by. I will take the young man’s message to heart and share it as much as I can. They are words to live by and I truly believe they could save lives.

Be open to synchronicities and BE THE LOVE YOU NEVER RECEIVED.

Mental Health in the Workplace – a simple solution

man-with-suitcase-on-railway-platform watching commuter train

30% of our lives are spent working.

Let that sink in for a moment.

Then consider the impact of your working life on the quality of your life as a whole. You owe it to yourself to make that 30% as positive as possible.

Work is a happier place to be if we feel that our work is purposeful, that others value our contribution and there is good camaraderie between co-workers.

Workplace culture can make or break our experience of working life and our chances of stress-related illness, so it is something that requires attention. Our own mind-set can also be adjusted to reduce the impact of stressful situations and increase our appreciation of good experiences.

This is where mindfulness comes in. Mindfulness is a practice of awareness of what is going on inside and around us, so that we can observe our own feelings and choose how to respond. This works for both good and bad situations:

  • Getting caught up in the daily grind can mean forgetting to notice the little things which make life worth living. Mindfulness brings our attention back to the things that matter.
  • When experiencing an unpleasant feeling or situation, mindfulness enables us to avoid knee-jerk reactions and negative self-talk. It helps us to take a step back, consider what is going on within ourselves and for anyone else involved, and then decide what is the best move.

How is this useful at work?

  • Working relationships – considering the needs and of others, as well as having our own needs recognised can transform how we feel within a team.
  • Leadership – driven by not just by targets but by what brings out the best in people i.e. clear roles and boundaries, being appreciated and treated with respect.
  • Stress – When people take their workplace stress home, it affects their personal relationships, and then they come into work worrying about their home life. It is a downward spiral that is easily preventable, as mindfulness techniques can be applied at home and work to keep stress under control.
  • Sick leave – accounts for 40% of all work-related illness. In 2014-15, 440,000 people in the UK reported work-related stress at a level they believed was making them ill (1) . Work is a contributing factor to mental health problems according to 62% of employees (2) . Therefore a simple daily practice to reduce stress makes a lot of sense.
  • Loyalty – happy employees stay put and deliver more. It is worth taking care of how they feel.
  • Hiring and firing – prevent wasted talent by making employees feel comfortable and motivated.
  • Performance – a small amount of stress enhances performance but chronic unmanageable stress reduces vitality and effectiveness in all areas of life. Mindfulness studies have shown that when people are equipped with the environment and tools to maintain a positive mind-set, performance improves.
  • Productivity – people who practise mindfulness are more creative, have better memory and concentration, and are more able to multitask.
  • Profit – as a direct result of productivity, performance, low staff turnover, low sick leave, nurturing talent, positive leadership and coherent team dynamics, profit has been shown to increase in companies where mindfulness is part of the culture.

Thriving companies which have adopted mindfulness include Google, Toyota, Facebook, Intel and Goldman Sachs.

If your workplace is your home, as a freelancer, small business owner, parent or carer, these principles still apply. You may not have staff to consider but your state of mind, day to day relationships and productivity all need to be managed.

A daily practice of mindfulness is a simple and practical way to manage stress in your work and personal life. I have put together a series of workshops to equip individuals with the basic techniques in just two hours.

In these workshops we look at how mindfulness provides greater self-awareness, leading to greater control of your mind-set, responses and stress levels. We apply these to real life situations to that you will be able to take away some ideas to implement straight away at work and home.

For dates and venues please go to https://silver-ray.co.uk/stress-management-at-work/


(1) Statistics provided by the Health and Safety Executive

(2)Business in the Community national Mental Health survey 2016


Forget perfectionism. Fly by the seat of your pants!



How many times have you put off doing something because you weren’t convinced you were skilled enough, or you didn’t feel ready?

I can happily say that when I started blogging I didn’t really know what I was doing. So I made it up as I went along, and I enjoyed it.

But even though I’d made a start I was afraid I wasn’t doing a good enough job. I thought I should find out all I could about the art of blogging, to make myself more skilled and professional. I’ve found many different theories about what to blog, when to blog, how to blog, what length an article should be, what readers to target, etc. etc. etc. What I’ve learned from these theories is that they all say something different and rarely agree. The more I’ve learned, the less I know…

Worse, I became so convinced I was doing everything wrong, that I ended up in a state of analysis paralysis. Also, writing began to feel like a chore. And it didn’t feel genuine. So I ended up writing nothing at all – that is nothing that you’ll find on my website. I started various articles, tried out different formulas. But each time I felt less and less inspired, so my efforts ended up in the bin. Because I’m pretty sure it’s stuff you wouldn’t want to read.

Now I have thrown the rule books out of the window and decided to go back to writing from the heart: what I feel, when I’m feeling it, however I feel like it, and to whoever gets it, which won’t be everybody but that’s OK. The topics will be a bit random and the posts will all be different lengths, but that’s OK too as long as somebody somewhere feels better for having read them.


Why am I telling you this?

Because sometimes you can try too hard. Sometimes it’s better to blunder along following your nose than have a perfectly formed plan which allows no room for how you feel, no room for what inspires you. In other words, it’s OK to fly by the seat of your pants.

It’s OK not to know what you’re doing. It’s better to make an honest hash of something you care about than to be too afraid to try.

As a small child you never consider failure. You see all around you people doing things that are beyond your ability, and have no doubt that you can learn to do them too. Think about to learning to walk. How many times does a child fall before he or she can stand up, balance and successfully put one foot in front of the other?

Every new endeavour is the same, when you’re challenging yourself, creating, starting something new, taking on things you’ve never done before, getting out of your comfort zone. This could be anything from parenting, to setting up a business, changing career, losing weight, trying out a new sport or language, getting over a fear of public speaking, giving up smoking, taking on a leadership role, learning to parallel park, building a website…

What all these things have in common is that they require some staying power.

Expect to fall. Don’t expect to run before you can walk. But do keep on getting up, knowing that you will learn to stand, walk and hold your own in that new thing you’re learning how to do.


“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas Edison



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Women treat it, Men end it

Time To Talk tattoo for mental health support 5th Feb

In the UK, 72% of people being treated for depression are women. But 75% of suicides are men.

These figures, compiled by the Men’s Health Forum, show that both men and women have trouble coping but men are not getting the help they need. https://www.menshealthforum.org.uk/key-data-mental-health

Fortunately, action is now being taken to tackle this problem. At national level, mental health now has equal status to physical health in UK health policy. Meanwhile, at local level, mental health charities are asking the nation to take 5 minutes on Thursday 5th February to have a conversation about mental health.

“Time to Talk” is an initiative created by mental health charities MIND and Rethink Mental Health. They are encouraging people to make time for their friends, family, clients and colleagues to share their thoughts and talk about a problem.   http://www.time-to-change.org.uk/timetotalkday   Through this and other events, efforts are being made to remove the stigma associated with mental illness and make it easier for people to access the help they need.

The truth is that it’s not possible to get through life without some sort of crisis. Everyone faces emotional or psychological struggles at some point. According to the Office for National Statistics, one-fifth of adults in the UK experience anxiety or depression. Other sources put the figure at 1 in 4. These problems are very common, so nobody should feel embarrassed to come forward and ask for help.

To give people a chance to discuss their problems, I will be providing “Time to Talk” for free all day on 5th February.

I would be pleased to hear from men, as well as women, who have some stress that they need to deal with. I will offer guidance and suggestions with no obligation to book an appointment.

mental health, 2 men talking and doing normal things, friendship

Contact me on Thursday 5th February 10a.m.-7p.m. for a free consultation from 5 mins up to half an hour, here at Silver Ray Healing Therapies:

Phone  07563 687108

E-mail  healing@silver-ray.co.uk

Instant message via www.Facebook.com/SilverRayHealingTherapies

Skype me at  pippa.silver.ray

If your situation is urgent you can find emergency support here: http://www.time-to-change.org.uk/what-are-mental-health-problems/help-support-services

Speak to you soon!


I am a Holistic Therapist and Reiki Master-Teacher specialising in relaxation and stress management.

I help clients to overcome the physical and emotional symptoms of anxiety, depression and stress. I work with them so that they can feel calm, in control and able to get their lives moving in the right direction.


Your comments and questions are welcome:



A Call for Kindness

Beating the Adversary - A True Story of Schizoaffective Disorder by Richard David Price  - Book Cover

Today, I have the great pleasure of being the host on DAY 8 of the Virtual Blog Tour for Richard David Price, author of the brand new book Beating the Adversary: A True Story of Schizoaffective Disorder, officially released on 1st December, 2014. On its debut, it became Amazon’s #1 best-selling new release in ‘schizophrenia’.

RICHARD DAVID PRICE was diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder as a teenager, as a result of a childhood accident.

Despite his difficult adolescence, he went on to complete a Master’s Degree in Business and has two children to whom he is devoted.

He is a devout member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints and feels his mission in life is to help spread hope that we all can overcome our personal challenges.

Yesterday, the tour visited Lynn Serafinn on the Spirit Authors blog at http://spiritauthors.com/category/new-books/, where Lynn interviewed Beating the Adversary editor Vrinda Pendred about the value and challenges of writing and editing a memoir of this kind.

Today I’d like to share with you a recent interview I had with Richard on how his spiritual beliefs have helped him, and other topics.




PIPPA:  How has your experience of bullying affected your relationships in adult life?

RICHARD:  Bullying is something we should all have zero tolerance for.  It leads to much greater problems. Looking back on my life, for example, if five or six people attack you, even if they are your age, that is no longer bullying; that is lethal. There was an incident in China where a young lady was beaten to death. She was killed in what would be considered a fast food restaurant. Her cries for help initially went unanswered by over 30 people in the restaurant, and then more who had gathered to watch. My point is that because of my experiences, in my adult life I hear stories like that and think, had I been there, that girl would be alive. I would rather die than live with the memory of doing nothing. We should all step in and help people.

PIPPA: Do you believe that spiritual beliefs can help to counter depression?

RICHARD: I have gone to church and at times not gone. I believe yes, spiritual beliefs can help. BUT depression at my level has to have some kind of modern medication to allow the person to lead a normal life. Most people who have this level of mental illness have to live in a home to be watched, and live in a world where people will fear or mock them for having gotten sick. Let’s take the spiritual side in viewing those who struggle and, at the very least, not make things harder for them.

Does being spiritual help the person? Maybe. But I think the most important thing is to show kindness.

PIPPA: What therapies have you found useful in helping to reduce anxiety?

RICHARD: I usually focus on something and take deep breaths. What’s harder is helping kids through it, because they struggle to get beyond the fear so they can focus and breathe. In those cases, what I like to do is make some completely outrageous joke. It throws the child off-guard enough to forget the pain. Then you can work with them on the breathing.


                                                                          ***END OF INTERVIEW***


I hope you enjoyed this brief interview with author Richard Price and that you’ll check out his new book Beating the Adversary: A True Story of Schizoaffective Disorder.

When you buy Beating the Adversary during its official Amazon launch, you’ll also receive a free novel entitled The Ladder by Vrinda Pendred, founder of Conditional Publications – an independent publisher dedicated to writers with neurological conditions.

To buy Beating the Adversary and get your free novel, go to:


Thanks for reading! Please do share your comments and thoughts below. I love reading your feedback.

Be sure to follow Richard tomorrow on the next stop of his Virtual Blog Tour, when he’ll be visiting Graham Aitchison’s ‘Food for Thought’ blog at http://giaitchison.blogspot.co.nz, where they’ll be talking about coping with depression and other topics.



Organic – better in ways you never thought of

Organic, apples, fruit and veg, bicycle

In September, along with harvest festivals of many faiths, we celebrate successful crops and all things organic.

Organic is old news. We often think of organic foods as being somehow exotic but before chemical fertilizers were invented, in the 1850s, organic was all we had! This is normal, natural, and the way things have grown for millions of years. Food produced in this way is what our bodies are designed to run on.

Is it any wonder that chronic disease is on the rise when the foods we eat are laden with toxic pesticides, herbicides and GMOs (genetically modified organisms)? It’s hard work for our bodies to eliminate these unnatural substances.


Fruit and veg

Pesticides, herbicides and GMOs are big business for chemical companies, so efforts have been made to discredit organic farming. However, there is now conclusive evidence that organically-produced foods are higher in nutrients than those grown with artificial fertilizers and sprayed with pesticides and weed-killers. http://www.soilassociation.org/organicisdifferent

A plant is only as good as the soil in which it grows. Fruits and vegetables grown in soil that is depleted of natural substances contain lower levels of minerals and vitamins than those grown in soil that is naturally fertilized. http://www.organicconsumers.org/Organic/organicstudy.cfm


Meat and dairy

Organic farming methods have clear benefits in terms of animal welfare and maintaining a food chain free of GMOs and chemicals. http://www.soilassociation.org/whatisorganic/organicanimals

However, there is some debate about the nutritional differences between organic or conventionally-produced animal products:  http://www.washingtonpost.com/national/health-science/is-organic-better-for-your-health-a-look-at-milk-meat-eggs-produce-and-fish/2014/04/07/036c654e-a313-11e3-8466-d34c451760b9_story.html

Nevertheless, whatever is in your food ends up in your body. It is always wise to steer clear of unnatural substances and anything that can be regarded as toxic. For optimum health we should stick to the foods for which our bodies have evolved.

Organic meat, fish, eggs and milk come from animals that are fed a natural diet and are not pumped with antibiotics or growth-promoting hormones.

Another important point is the energetic effect of consuming foods which are badly-produced. If an animal suffers during its life before you eat it, some residue of that negative energy must be carried in its meat. The same would be true of milk or eggs from animals that have been reared in poor conditions. Such energy could be regarded as toxic, as it needs to be eliminated from the body just as a chemical would be.

So whether from an energetic stance or care for the welfare of animals or consideration for the chemical load placed on your own body, there are many reasons to consider choosing  organic animal products.

If I eat organic, do I need supplements?

Are nutritional supplements really necessary if we are eating nutrient-rich organic foods?

For anyone living on top of a mountain, the answer is probably not. Natural foods in a natural environment should provide balance and enable the body to function well.

But for those of us living in polluted urban environments, I believe that natural foods are not enough. In cities our bodies have additional toxic loads to get rid of, using up large amounts of nutrients in the process.

Not all supplements are created equal, and some are padded out with mineral fillers and non-organic substances which require elimination along with other toxins.

Fortunately, it is possible to find supplements that are organically-produced and made up in capsule form with vegetable fillers.

Those are some important considerations at a personal level. Should we be worried about the rest of the world?


Thinking global

Pesticides and herbicides are bad news for our health. They don’t do wildlife any favours either. http://www.pan-uk.org/environment/environmental-effects-of-pesticides 

Globally, the use of pesticides and herbicides is having a devastating effect on the populations of bees, butterflies and other pollinators. The birds and small mammals which eat these insects are also being poisoned. http://www.organicconsumers.org/articles/article_29307.cfm

All these chemicals have to go somewhere when it rains. They end up in the rivers and oceans, killing off aquatic plant life and causing abnormalities in fish. http://caseagrantnews.org/2013/06/25/pesticides-affecting-fish/

The more we eat organic, the fewer fields will be sprayed with the chemicals which ultimately threaten the survival of all animals including ourselves.

At a global level, overuse of antibiotics is leading to the development of “superbugs” which do not respond to medication and threaten the survival of both animals and humans. http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2014/05/140501-superbugs-antibiotics-resistance-disease-medicine/ 

The routine use of antibiotics is forbidden on organic farms. Organically-reared animals are only medicated when ill, unlike animals on conventional farms.


What does all this mean for your weekly shop?

Let’s be realistic. Most of us are pushed for time and money, so how can we adapt to organic products without breaking the bank or making shopping time-consuming and complicated?

At one time it was a lot more expensive to buy organic than chemically-grown produce, but the gap is closing as demand for organic foods increases.

Some items, such as organic eggs, are much more expensive than ordinary free-range. But many fruits and vegetables are only a little more pricey than the non-organic alternatives. Organic fruits and vegetables represent good value for money, when you consider that the  purpose of food is nutrition, and organic fruit and vegetables give you a lot more nutrients per kilo.

It is becoming a lot easier to find organic products nowadays. Most supermarkets now stock them. The cheaper supermarkets, such as Asda, have a limited range. Waitrose, at the other end of the spectrum, has an entire section devoted to organic produce and some frozen and tinned organic vegetables too.

Some independent health food shops have fresh produce, and many towns now have a box scheme which delivers fruit and vegetables to your home or nearby pickup point. Organic market stalls are on the increase, and many products can now be ordered online.


Where to buy

Here in East London, we are lucky enough to have several shops and projects supplying organic foods. These include:

Box schemes  Nationwide   http://www.abelandcole.co.uk/   http://www.riverford.co.uk/


Stalls and Box schemes  East London   http://www.organiclea.org.uk/   http://www.organicilford.com/


Health Food Shops

Simple’n’Natural, Wanstead E11  http://www.allinlondon.co.uk/directory/1175/60011.php  No fresh produce but an excellent range of store-cupboard foods plus household and body care items.

Second Nature, Wood Street E17 http://www.e17woodstreet.co.uk/shop/second-nature-wholefoods      Foods, household, body care, fresh fruit and vegetables, plus their own box scheme.

As Nature Intended –http://www.asnatureintended.uk.com/  Up-market organic foods, remedies and body-care, located across London with two East End branches.



Beauty and lifestyle  http://www.biggreensmile.comhttp://www.suvarna.co.uk

Nutritional supplements  http://silverray.eu.nspshop.com  free from GMOs, pesticides and herbicides.

**SPECIAL OFFER Sept 2014  http://silverray.eu.nspshop.com/super_supplemental_-_sept_offer_10_off.htm


The bottom line

As consumers and human beings, it is in our best interests to support natural farming methods and buy organic as much as possible. In my view, we can’t afford not to.

I hope this has been helpful and informative. Let me know what you think!

Stay well 🙂














How to choose a psychic or medium and get a good reading

If you want some spiritual guidance but don’t know which type of reading to go for, here’s how to get the answers you need.


Revealing the unseen

Life would be easy if we were born with a road map of all the choices and situations we have to navigate. In reality, we often find ourselves up against challenges, decisions or emotions that we don’t know how to handle.

Readings are useful because they cut through the confusion and obscurity. Sometimes, when we can’t see the wood for the trees, a reading can simply untangle the options to help us see the way forward. Sometimes information is revealed that would otherwise be hidden. Alternatively, it’s possible to open up a connection to the Spirit World to enable communication from people (or even pets) who have passed over.

Throughout history people have sought Divine Guidance when they’re feeling lost or out of their depth. You have access to this too.



The problem which people come up against, when they need this kind of help, is the mystifying language. There’s a lack of clarity about what different kinds of readers actually do. That can leave us at a loss for where to turn for help.

I’m often asked what is the difference between psychic readings, clairvoyance and mediumship.

I’m going to outline for you the main types of reading which are available and explain some of the terminology. This will help you to make sense of the options and know how to get the answers you need.


Psychics v. Mediums

The term “Psychic” is often used as a blanket term for both psychic and mediumistic readings, but in fact they are two different things.

In a psychic reading, we connect to the energy of a living person and read the information contained in their aura or energy field. It is possible to read past, present or future information, but it is important to understand that this is not “fortune telling”.

A professional reader with good ethics will make it clear that you are being shown the big picture and a range of possibilities. It is possible to indicate what is more or less likely, or more or less favourable. What you do with that information is up to you, so it is your actions that will determine the outcome.

In mediumship, we connect to the energy of a person in spirit. This person is known as a “communicator”. Again, information may come through that relates to the past, present or future. Where it relates to future possibilities, it is your responsibility to use the information wisely if you want positive results.

A good medium will give you what is known as “evidence of survival”. This means giving details about the person in spirit, such as job, personality, home life etc. so that you can verify who it is and whether or not you know them and want a message from them.

Having established who the communicator is, the medium will then ask for the reason they’ve come through. Sometimes they want to let you know that they are doing alright on the other side and to let you know that they are present around you. Sometimes they have a particular message, such as advice or a warning, where they are looking out for you and want to help.

It’s up to you how much of this you take on board. If someone was an interfering busy-body in life, chances are they haven’t changed much! On the other hand, some people see the error of their ways once they’ve passed over and might want to make amends. Others, who you may have had a great relationship with in life, can still have the ability to inspire you from the other side.


Is Clairvoyance the same as Mediumship?

“Clairvoyant” is often used to refer to mediums, but actually it applies to psychics too. Clairvoyance means “clear seeing”. Seeing beyond the physical is what we do in both psychic and mediumistic readings.

The other skills that are used in various types of reading include: Clairaudience – clear hearing,  Clairsentience – clear feeling, and Claircognisance – clear knowing.


What is Channelling?

This is what all readers and healers do when they are bringing through information or energy from an unseen source. It means making ourselves a vessel or channel that information and energy can flow through.

You need to be aware that the information or healing energy is not coming directly from the practitioner but from Spirit/God/Source. Any reader or healer who claims otherwise is not telling the truth!


Do all Psychics use cards?

Many do, but not all. Tarot, oracle cards, playing cards etc. can all be used as tools to help bring through information. Some psychics still read palms, tea-leaves or crystal balls. Psychometry is a technique where the reader holds an object that belongs to the client and gets information from it. These are all different methods of divination, of tuning into the client’s energy to find out what is going on in their life. It is also possible to tune in directly to the person with no tools at all.

There are some people with very specialised psychic skills, such as medical intuitives. They will know what is going on in the client’s physical body and be able to tell them if they need medical attention.

Remote viewing is another kind of psychic skill. This involves seeing into another place to find out what’s happening there. They could be looking at the room next door or to a place on the other side of the world.


What do I need to say to the reader?

Once you know what kind of reading you want, be clear about what you are asking of the psychic or medium.

In a psychic reading, if you have a particular issue that you want to sort out you must say so. If you ask for a general reading, you’ll get a bit of everything. Say at the start if you  want the reader to focus on an individual area of your life.

Likewise, if you want to connect to a particular person in Spirit, tell the reader who you want to hear from. It can’t be guaranteed that the individual on the other side will come through, but the medium can ask and may be successful. If you’re not looking to hear from anyone in particular, you can ask the medium to bring through anyone who’s available. Keep in mind that it might not be someone you were particularly close to. People always come through for a reason, however, so it can be interesting to hear what they want to say to you even if you didn’t know them very well in life.

While the reading is in progress, respond to the reader but don’t tell them too much. Let them get into the flow of the energy and access the information you need to hear. Give them short answers: yes, no, not sure, maybe, usually etc. so they will know if they’re on the right track.

If they come up with something unusual you may need to verify it for them. For instance, I once saw a piece of workshop equipment that I didn’t recognise. I described it and the client was able to tell me what it was.

Be honest. If the reader is describing things or people that you cannot relate to at all, let them know. Also be patient. Sometimes it can take a while to build up a picture, and it may be that you have to put the pieces together like a mental jigsaw puzzle.


Do I need to visit the Psychic or Medium in person?

Not necessarily. Many people prefer the face-to-face approach, but if that’s not practical then readings can be carried out long distance.

Psychic phones lines are one option. These often include mediums too, so you can get either type of reading. On the plus side, you don’t have to book in advance and they’re available 24/7. The down side is that you could end up spending more money than you intended.

Some readers now provide e-mail or text readings in answer to a question that the client sends in. More commonly a distance reading will be done with you present, either on the phone or via Skype, so that you can respond and have a two-way conversation.


Trust yourself when choosing who to work with

In every profession, there are unfortunately a few people who are not 100% ethical. Don’t work with anyone you makes you feel uncomfortable. Trust your intuition. If you’re not sure, ask around for someone who is recommended.

Your reading should be given respectfully and compassionately, with due consideration for the fact that some of the information could be very personal or make you feel emotional.

Some readers give free or low-cost demonstrations at Spiritualist Churches or Mind Body Spirit events. You can go along and see them in action to decide if you would like to have a private reading with them.


Take control

Ultimately, Spirit has all the answers. It’s the job of the psychic or medium to help you find them.

I’ve given you an outline of what kind of readings are available and what you need to look for in a reader. I’ve also explained some of the terms you will hear, so you can understand what people are offering. You now know how a reading works so that you can approach it with confidence.

A reading can take the stress out of a situation and help you feel more in control. It’s a quick and easy way to regain your sense of direction.

Readings are a wonderful gift, both to give and receive. Don’t be afraid to ask!


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I am both a psychic and a medium. I give private readings and public demonstrations, locally in London and Essex as well as long-distance.


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Are you one of the 50%?

Last Saturday was sunny, and just about warm enough for everyone to do their British Summertime thing: shorts, flip flops, vest tops, sunglasses. I chuckled to myself (still wearing boots and a winter coat) and was glad of my layers as I sat outside a pub fending off a chilly March breeze.

In the UK it’s generally sunny but cold, or warm and muggy with a heavy layer of cloud. Or it’s just cold and grey. It’s not that often we get the opportunity to bare our skin to the sunshine.

As a result, around half the population are Vitamin D deficient.

Your doctor won’t tell you this

I had some blood tests done a while back to find out the cause of some unexplained symptoms. The doctor assured me everything was “normal”. I scrutinised the results and saw that my Vitamin D levels were marked as low. When I questioned this he told me: “Half the UK population have low Vitamin D levels” as if that made it alright. So what the doctor regards as normal is not a healthy level, but a level that is averagely bad. I told him that deficiency being “normal” does not make it OK and set about fixing the problem.


Reasons why it matters

Lack of Vitamin D has been associated with Multiple Sclerosis, heart disease, autism, musculoskeletal pain, obesity, lupus, changes in thyroid hormones, gastro-intestinal and ear infections, poor muscle development in children, and many more problems.

Research is ongoing, but the message is clear. Vitamin D is essential and without it our health will suffer.

Many up-to-date reports are available from the Vitamin D Council www.vitamindcouncil.org


How much do I need?

The UK recommended daily allowances for vitamins tend to be a lot lower than the recommendations given in Canada, Australia or the USA. Likewise, over-the-counter supplements tend to offer fairly low dosages.

Excellent guidelines are given here – scroll down to “Recommended daily intakes”:  https://www.vitamindcouncil.org/about-vitamin-d/how-do-i-get-the-vitamin-d-my-body-needs/

According to these guidelines, 2,000 to 4,000 IU (international units) per day is the average recommended amount, that is 50 to 100 mcg (microgrammes) per day.

If you’re a person who doesn’t get out much, or feels the cold and wears a lot of layers, or if you have dark skin, you are more likely to have lower levels of Vitamin D in your body and need to take a larger amount as a supplement.

If you want to get tested, try your GP, and if that doesn’t work there are home kits available  https://www.vitamindcouncil.org/about-vitamin-d/testing-for-vitamin-d/


Where can I get some?

2 a day of these tablets will provide your 100 mcg   http://silverray.eu.nspshop.com/vitamin_d

Vitamin D is fat-soluble, so you must take them with some fatty or oily food. A piece of buttered toast will do.


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Who’s living in your head?

Does this emotion belong to you?

Let’s start with positive feelings. Where do they come from? Well, sometimes we just wake up feeling cheerful, sometimes we get there by meditating or doing some yoga, and sometimes a simple pleasure will do the trick, like a hot chocolate on a chilly day.

Then there are the feelings that come from outside. Sometimes a smile or a hug will warm your soul. We cheer ourselves up with good vibes from funny books or feel-good movies. Or we spend some time with happy people and find their good humour infectious.

This is a true story

One day last November, I was struck with a huge wave of unexplained happiness that lasted about 24 hours. I felt sunny and cheerful for no apparent reason. I wondered to myself exactly what this feeling was. I could only describe it as Gratitude. “That’s odd”, I thought, “everything in my life is just the same as it was yesterday, so why do I suddenly feel overwhelmed with gratitude?”. Then I looked at the date and realised that it was Thanksgiving Day.

We talk about collective consciousness, but until that day I had not really felt the true power of this phenomenon. It struck me that millions of Americans, all giving thanks at the same time, had created a ripple effect all the way into my energy field and my heart.

The next day, the high subsided, and I was back to my usual level of contentment (average mix of security and worry). I wondered how different the world would be if we made more of an effort to express love and gratitude openly every day.

Why am I wobbly?

Right after Thanksgiving, Santa came along. Nope, he wasn’t carrying a sack full of jolliness. Everyone got into a pre-Xmas panic and the anxiety was palpable.

Likewise, you walk into a room where people are not getting on with each other and you start to feel on edge, even if the problem has nothing to do with you.

A friend told me recently me about a bad day at work. His colleagues were all stressed out and getting on each other’s nerves. His day was running smoothly, but the grumpy vibe got to him nonetheless, and he couldn’t wait to get out of there.

One day, I was in a meeting where the other participants were terrified of speaking. The person running the meeting began to muddle her words. It came to my turn and I talked too fast, skipped a bit, then sat down nervously before I’d finished what I was saying. What on earth happened there? I could only explain this as an attack of OPE: Other People’s Emotions

Who’s vibe is it anyway?

The situations I’ve described are short-lived and ones you can walk away from if they get too bad.

But what if the people who are driving you nuts are living in your head?

I’m talking about your parents, grandparents, teachers, brothers and sisters, friends and enemies, neighbours, cousins, carers, bosses… everyone you ever looked up to or had to obey.

What elements of their consciousness are you carrying around?

Role models

Many are lucky enough to have people in their lives who give them lots of love and encouragement. Some get dealt a bad hand and seem to be up against bullies and critics from the day they’re born. The reality for most people is a bit of both.

The feelings that are planted in your mind, by the people on the outside, profoundly affect your ability to generate your own good vibes.

I’m talking about your deep-rooted sense of who you are and what you are capable of doing. One thoughtless comment can stick in a child’s mind and change the course of who they become. A little praise at the right time can create a seed of confidence that leads to success.

Other people’s positive or negative state of mind is projected onto those around them. As children, we are especially vulnerable to the effects of other people’s behaviour. We grow up taking on the issues and feelings of the people who surrounded us when we were young, even if we are not aware of it.

We are not worthy

If you’re lucky you grew up showered with praise and supported in everything you tried to do. If not, you may have been surrounded by other people’s insecurities, anger, jealousy, emotional distance etc.

In the first case, you are likely to be confident and optimistic. In the second, you are likely to find that negative emotions crowd your headspace whenever you try to take a leap forward in life. The voices of the naysayers will remind you that you’re not worth the effort, you always mess things up, you’re disorganised, you haven’t got the guts, you don’t deserve to succeed, you’ll never amount to anything, you’re always bound to fail.

Some people take that negativity as a red rag to a bull and go all-out to prove people wrong. Others feel defeated before they’ve even begun.

As adults, what can we do about the results as they play out in our everyday life?

Tell the negative committee in your head to sit down and shut up!

For everyday situations where other people’s nerves or bad mood are getting you down, try this, a simple technique for bolstering yourself and shutting out unwanted influences: https://silver-ray.co.uk/2013/05/02/energetic-protection/

To deal with the long-term stuff that’s gone deep into your psyche, I can offer some painless methods for removing unwanted thoughts and feelings.

  • I use Reiki and Sekhem to find and clear the places in your system where negative energy has got trapped.
  • For very stubborn issues, I can apply Psychic Surgery, conducted as a specialised form of Reiki.
  • Another technique that I use to shift negative patterns and mental blocks is Theta Healing™ . This is a talking therapy that enables me to tap into your subconscious and make gentle yet powerful adjustments. Otherwise known as “spiritual NLP”, it’s a swift way of weeding out the negative thoughts and replacing them with positive feelings and beliefs. The beauty of this method is that it can go beyond the influences of this lifetime. It is possible to identify and remove issues that have been handed down through generations, that can affect you now even though they do not belong to you at all.

Other People’s Emotions are a very powerful thing, but they do not have to hold you back.

This is your life and you have the choice to off-load others’ emotional baggage, take ownership of your future and live it to the full.

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