Too Much Too Soon – diary anxiety and goal overwhelm

Running in PJs…

This is not a normal January. Socially slow. Soggy underfoot. That’s pretty standard and quite acceptable, because we usually like to emerge slowly from our state of hibernation. But the usual, comfortable, slightly boring January plod, that’s not happening this year. Not for me anyway.

2014 burst in, dragged me out from under the duvet and gave me a slap! I don’t know about you, but I wasn’t ready for the rude awakening. January as a whole has been like one of those days when you wake up thinking it’s Sunday and then realise it’s actually Monday and you’re late for work!!

Result: you feel as though you’re behind before you’ve even begun, frantically trying to get ahead and feel in control.

That never feels good. But in January it feels worse, because everyone is trying to get a jump start on the year. They feel they must obliterate all their bad habits overnight and become a perfect version of themselves immediately, in order to guarantee success. Then a couple of weeks in, when they find that instant transformation has not occurred, they start to think that they’re failing.

In January it feel worse for another reason too. We’re still half asleep.

So 2014 has given us a shove, we’re up and about and being bombarded with Stuff To Do and we haven’t even had our coffee yet.

… in the dark

Judging by the calls I’ve been receiving, it seems I’m not the only one who’s been taken by storm. Different people are coming to me yet it’s the same conversation: too much to take in, muddle, confusion, too much to do, can’t cope, not sure, worried, can’t decide, don’t know, overloaded, too much information, it’s all conflicting, what to believe? where to start?  In short, overwhelm. There have even been tears.

… when you should be hiding under the duvet

There’s not a law that says you have to get your act together on January 1st or consider your whole year a write-off. That pressure is purely self-inflicted.

There’s no way our bodies are programmed to hit the gym, clear out the cupboards, lose weight, and get up in the dark to do a commute, in the middle of winter.

We are mammals. We get sluggish at this time of year. We are meant to be a bit heavier. We are supposed to be allowing our bodies to recuperate and replenish,  ready for the active time of the year when it’s bright and warm. I’m not saying become a couch potato or skive off work, but go easy. Work just a little outside your comfort zone, not in turbo mode. There’s a reason they call it Spring cleaning. Now is the time to snuggle up. In a couple of months you can go crazy with the hoover. These are natural cycles and if we work with them then progress doesn’t have to hurt!

Crowd consciousness

All that being said, how do you manage an onslaught of external demands when you’re really not in action mode?

First of all, recognise the emotional impact of what everyone else is doing around you. Anyone feel guilty when they see a skinny jogger bounding down the road while they’re sitting in the car? Remember this, their life is not your life. Maybe they have a better tolerance for cold than you do. Maybe they don’t have kids to pick up. Maybe they have more flexible working hours than you do. Maybe you have bad knees. Don’t feel bad. Do what you can. Perhaps a walk is more your style.

And what about the emotional impact of everyone else’s SAD, January blues etc.? We are all connected, we know that now. We know that the signals our hearts send out affect people for miles around. Do you think you’re immune to everyone else’s New Year anxiety. I think not. Your unexplained edginess might not be yours at all.

Be aware of it and choose not to get drawn in. Decide how you would prefer to be feeling and make that your goal.

Foggy conditions

What usually winds us up is decisions. Everything is a decision. The confusion, overload and worry often stems from wondering what to do. Well, here’s another thing to remember. Decisions are ten times more difficult when we’re tired. If you can schedule a rest, do that, and return to the problem with a clear head.

But if you have a to sort something out right away and can’t see the wood for the trees, this might help: the agony of indecision is usually a battle of head versus heart, what your mind tells you is logical vs. what you really feel like doing in your soul. When you get stuck, be honest with yourself and go with what you truly feel is right for you.

Should vs. Want To

Should is a dirty word in my opinion. What voice in your head is telling you that XYZ is what you should do? Is it your own voice or that of someone in your life who has been overcritical who you can never please? What do you actually want and need in this situation?

How much of your Stuff To Do could be categorised under Should? And how much is absolutely unavoidable? Pare it down. Stick with unavoidable and reduce your list to something manageable.

One of my favourite quotes from super-achiever Bruce Lee is this: “It’s not the daily increase but the daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential.”

 

Make it a Fun Run not a marathon

Let’s not try to perfect 12 months in one day. Let’s face it, we have no idea what lies ahead. Certainly, it is good to start with an optimistic outlook. Just don’t let unrealistic expectations lead you to a sense of defeat.

Aim for incremental changes, small shifts which you can easily handle. This will remove the fear of failure and will amount to significant transformation over time.

Remember that energy levels are lower in winter. Your body is already working hard to counter the effects of cold, damp and lack of sunlight. So treat it kindly and don’t schedule more things than you can physically handle.

What we are trying to achieve here is happiness not perfection.

Roadside support

Having tried all the above, if you still need some help, do give me a call. I provide several ways to easily get more clarity, more energy and replace anxiety with a sense of being in control.

Therapies:-

Energy healing, in the form of Reiki or Sekhem, will instil instant calm while stimulating the flow of energy in your body and clearing your mind.

Theta Healing™ is great for tackling mental blocks by tapping into the subconscious and making gentle yet powerful adjustments.

For pure relaxation I offer Facial Massage and Indian Head Massage.

Readings:-

If you would like some spiritual guidance, I offer two types of reading. I can do a psychic Life Path Reading or a Clairvoyant / Mediumistic reading. Either way, I aim to assist you with a sense of direction and reassurance.

https://silver-ray.co.uk/therapies-and-readings

Nutrition:-

To support your physical needs all year round, I now provide an excellent range of supplements with high quality ingredients at very affordable prices.

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